How to set New Year’s Resolutions, or Why People Fail on Their Resolutions.
Whether you accomplish your goals can be sabotaged can by how frame your New Year’s Resolutions. While I can’t guarantee that you will absolutely meet your resolutions by the end of the year, if you follow this useful advice, you won’t be setting yourself up for failure.
- Have specific goals.
How often do you set or read about vague goals like being happier? Ambiguous or vague goals don’t direct you in how you want to change your life or how you want to behave. First define what being happier means to you? What is the specific behavior that you want to engage in? Perhaps what you really mean is that you wish to smile more, so then change the resolution to: I will walk out the front door with a smile on my face. Or perhaps you mean that you won’t immediately launch into a complaint about your life if someone asks you how you are doing. In that case, your resolution would be that you will say something positive about your life whenever someone asks you how you are doing.Take a look at your resolutions. If there are vague goals, rethink what exactly you wish to accomplish and do and rewrite your resolution that directs you to do a specific behavior.
- Goal is challenging, yet achievable.
Like Goldilocks, the level of difficulty of your resolutions need to be just right. Resolutions are not goals if they are too easy and if they are too difficult, then you’re setting yourself up for failure. You want to pick a level of difficulty that has a likelihood of success with effort and work on your part, but not an absolute guarantee. You want your resolution to be something that you are working toward so that when you do complete it, you feel a sense of accomplishment.
- Goal is something you want, rather than something you don’t want.
Often we set goals that are not our own, but rather the wishes of a loved one or societal expectations. You have to want this. Ultimately you only have yourself to hold you accountable for your actions. Your behavior and action is driven by your own motivation and drive. You won’t be motivated to do something you don’t want to do, but if you really want, you’ll find and make a way of getting it done.
“People always make time to do the things they really want to do.“ – Anonymous
I leave you with one of my favorite quotations:
Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. ~Neale Donald Walsch